So, last week I did something that I never imagined I'd do. I made an appointment to see an OB/GYN that specializes in fertility. I feel like I am cheating on Dr Fabulous. I know this is ridiculous but I don't want him to think that I don't trust him. I TOTALLY trust him. I just feel like I need all the help I can get and right now it seems like a consultation with a specialist might be a good idea.
Unfortunately, my appointment isn't until October 15th and I was hoping to be pregnant by then. Of course, if we happen to get pregnant before October 15th, then I can just cancel the appointment and continue to see Dr Fabulous. Also, one of the first questions I am going to ask is whether I can go back to seeing Dr Fabulous once I am pregnant and past my first trimester.
Even as I sit here typing away about this, I am fretting about telling him I am going to see someone else. He has been through so much with me over the last 2 years and I want to continue to see him but I just feel like I need more help in the baby making/keeping department.
At some point, I will have to say something because I need the results of the tests that he has run so far. I also need to get CDs with my ultrasounds, CT scans and MRIs. I think I am going to hold off til at least the middle of September and maybe even the beginning of October.
I know its not really "cheating" and lots of people see multiple doctors but I feel like I am running around behind his back. I am not even sure I am going to be able go through with the appointment because I am such a lunatic about this. Ugh. Why must I be so complicated?
Well, for now, I am going to fill out the paperwork they sent me. Then, I am going to tuck it away so I don't have to think about it again for a month! Yeah right. Like I could forget. I don't think I forget anything. Instead it all just runs around in my head torturing me...
I'm sure he has a lot of patients and won't blame you for seeing a specialist. Yes, it sounds like you trust him and believe in him but, he's not a specialist in the field you need (right now). If he doesn't like that than it sounds like he has made the Doctor/patient relationship way too personal which, in my opinion, is ethically inappropriate given the power differential. The whole reason there are codes of ethics in place (especially with licensed professions) is to protect the patient. If relationships cross into the area of murky boundaries, it's harder to make informed decisions about whatever care someone needs.
ReplyDeleteFor example, I know with my clients they think that I think about them all the time or remember every single detail of every single thing they've ever told me. which I do think of them/remember most of the time... but it's easier for them to think of me because I'm just one person as opposed to me remembering and concentrating on all of them. Does that make sense?
Besides, he would probably be happy that you're using your "tools" he has helped you attain to advocate for your needs.